Tuesday, July 29, 2014

The Bachelorette Finale: "Is it too good to be true?"

I am a sucker for "trash" TV. I love all things bachelor/bachelorette and I was "team Josh" from the beginning. Andi kept saying, "I feel like its too good to be true", and at first it bothered me. I started thinking about what she meant, and I thought it had to do with the premise of the show. I am sure everyone would agree that traveling around the world is an easy situation to fall in love in. I thought to myself, "you're right Andi", it probably is "too good to be true" you haven't even experienced real life together.

I then thought about the beginning of any relationship, and how much work it is to keep all of your flaws and crazy in. You're trying to hide all of the bad so you don't scare away someone good (at least that's what I did). You don't realize it while you're doing it, but now that I am completely comfortable around my boyfriend of 5 years, its amazing to me how uncomfortable I was around him for so long. There was so much about me I didn't let him see, and its so refreshing to not have to hide anything anymore.

After thinking about all of this I began to think "how could anyone not fall in love when they are pretending that they don't have flaws?" I thought, of course its "too good to be true", you're traveling the world while you put life on hold. No fights, no compromise, nothing to worry about. I laughed as I realized how right she was, their relationship was "too good to be true".

AND THEN, it came to me. "its too good to be true" isn't a bad thing. It isn't negative at all. It's a blessing. It means that what you have is better than what you dreamed you could have. Sometimes when your love is so strong, and so amazing, you think its "too good to be true". It wasn't about the show, or the traveling, or that their relationship was lacking anything. It was the feelings they had. Those feelings were so real, that they believed it was "too good to be true".

I constantly worry about my relationship. I worry that I don't deserve someone as perfect as Zach when some people don't have anyone. I worry that one day I will have used up all of "the good" I deserved and the man I love won't be mine anymore. BUT, I constantly have amazing realizations that my relationship is actually better than anything I could have ever dreamed of. I realize that I am so incredibly lucky, and that is what I try to focus on. Despite all of my flaws (that are finally all out on the table), someone loves me for me. It's truly incredibly, and it is "too good to be true". BUT, I shouldn't worry, I should accept that it actually is "too good to be true", and realize how lucky I am to be able to say that.

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